Missing you as much as ever . Love Mum xxx

A lot of people have been asking for Jenny's eulogy speech. I'm sure she would be delighted at the positivity it has generated. Anyway, here it is... Steve ____ Dearest husband, family, friends….all of you… I couldn’t resist ever so cheekily having a couple of words at my service, so here they are, with my thanks that you are all gathered for me today. …As a girl, when I first learnt that things died, I remember crying the whole afternoon. Probably into the next day. I couldn’t understand why everything didn’t just carry on the same as before. Perhaps rather selfishly, because I was perfectly contented with my set-up. I loved everything and everyone around me. I also knew how to roller-disco and learnt ALL the words to 80s onwards pop songs, thanks to repetitive local radio. In truth, I suppose I’d cried because my brother and I were privileged to know a very happy upbringing, with parents, family, and friends that celebrated our successes and made us smile. In short, they gave us a good compass in life, and as I reflect on things, I know that we are not all blessed with that luck or start. That I had always had this background and used it to march into a future of teenage years, through education, into work, and onto a home and marriage with someone that loved me so very equally, made me happier still. Of course, life gives you a hard time, but I have always been supported by my past; by those that I have grown with; by those I have come to love so very fully as closer set, and also as a wider group over my lifetime. There are no guarantees about how things turn out for any of us really, but with honesty I am able to say that I have experienced a great life in human kindness. My time may have been shorter, yes, but in terms of happiness, delight and overall contentedness, I feel so certainly that I won a jackpot. I ask you to really consider this when you experience today, because it was, or is never my wish to be mourned with a stifling black sadness. One that strips joy or humour. I wish instead that you will see the celebration in my life - one spent giggling and saying yes to experiences. I am a person that yes, focused on the usual life goals that we all do, but most of all what I really really loved to do was to be happy and joke around; to try and spread kindness. I liked to laugh (and did laugh) the hardest, _and that_ is my great desire for everyone here, because _that_ is what it means to live. So please think of me, if you will, in happy times, or when you see wildflowers, or when you recall something funny we did together. Because I will be right there in memory, smiling back with love. Jen

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